Setting
Goals: Driving Toward Success - Tips for Working with Spiritual Law when
Setting GoalsBy Julia
Melges-Jablonski
Driving
Toward Success - Tips for Working with Spiritual Law when Setting Goals
In
dreams, driving in a car is often a metaphor for how we move through life. In
fact, if we're the drivers, how we operate any vehicle in a dream may reveal
how we are moving through our lives. If the vehicle is an airplane, the
metaphor may pertain to our spiritual paths. If it's a boat, it may relate to
our emotional lives. A car tends to signify physical or practical goals, how
we're living in the "real world."
As
our psyches already have associations between driving and how we move through
our lives, it's natural to apply that metaphor to goal setting. Let's say we
live in New York City, but we aren't happy there and we want to move. Instead
of setting a negative goal of getting away from something (NYC), we must set a
positive goal of where we want to go. Without this positive goal, we're like a
driver who gets in the car and just starts driving around, looking for who
knows what. Look at people you know well, and you'll see lots of these types of
"drivers." They don't like the relationship, job or home they're in,
but they've not yet determined what they want instead. They drive in circles
and never really go anywhere.
First
we must set a positive long-term goal. Let's say we decide we want to move from
our home in New York City to 123 Success Street in Seattle. We have a
long-range goal, now we need to establish some short term steps or mini goals
in order to get there. This is how we take control and make things happen. It's
like drawing a map of how to get from where we are to where we want to go, so
we can take the most direct route there and avoid delays and detours along the
way. This is essential no matter what the goal may be, from getting a new job
to creating the love we want in our lives.
Tips
for Working with Spiritual Law when Setting Goals
The
age old practical advice of writing down goals is wise. Putting words to what
we decide we want gets the energy moving and focuses our attention. By writing
down our goals, we clarify them and begin the process of bringing them from the
realm of thought into the physical. It's also wise to state our goals out loud,
but to state them in the form of affirmations, like they're already here or
ours. Writing down our goals or giving voice to them also puts our subconscious
into action, and draws assistance from Spirit. The law of attraction then
begins to produce the perfect "coincidences" to support our
fulfillment.
It's
essential to state goals in positive language. Instead of saying, "I am
now letting go of fear and overcoming my tendency for procrastination," we
are much wiser to say, "I have confidence and faith in the future, and
readily take action to achieve my goals."
It's
also wise to state or write goals in the present or past tense, as though they
are already realities in the now. If we imagine what we desire as far off in
the future, we'll never feel it moving in. Even if we imagine it "on its
way to us," we keep it ever "on its way" or on the horizon. As
we imagine things to be, so they are. Imagine what you desire is here now, and
it will be.
Remember
that we can achieve anything we desire, but we can't always determine the
details. For example, we may determine exactly what we want in a mate and what
we want to create in a partnership, but we can't determine who will fit that
bill. It may be that our present partner is not a match to what we really want.
If we cling to trying to make that person who we want him or her to be, we will
remain frustrated. To extend the driving analogy, we can decide we want to move
to Seattle, but we can't make a road that leads to Florida take us there, no
matter how much we may want for this to work.
Similarly,
we can't force others to conform to our desires. We can achieve whatever we
want in our own lives, but we can't control what others do or want for
themselves. Instead of trying to get our lover to come back, we'd be wiser to
focus on creating the perfect romantic relationship for us. Not even
"magic" can ethically force others to act as we'd like them to.
Be
as specific in determining all goals as possible, but don't be so specific that
you doubt your ability to succeed. There is a point in specifying desired
details where we tend to bite our lips or raise our own eyebrows. Often this is
when we're focused on result goals versus performance goals. For example,
stating "I will lose ten pounds in two weeks" is a result goal, and
there are many factors here beyond our conscious control. We may do everything
we can to make this happen, and still not achieve it. It's wiser to state
specific performance goals, and allow the results to unfold as they will. A
performance goal might be, "I will stick with my eating plan and run three
miles a day for the next two weeks."
Put
the power of your imagination to work for you. What we think is real on subtler
planes. The more we think something and the more emotion we evoke in thinking
it, the more power we give it for manifestation. The clearer our mental vision
of our goal, the faster we will achieve it.
We
are all using our imaginations to create in our lives everyday, but some of us
do it far more consciously and constructively than others. When we worry, we
give mental energy to failing or what is not desired. We must consciously
choose to focus on positive images of success. A great way to get into the
mental and feeling state of success is to remember how it felt in the past to
have what we want in the future.
Let's
say we want new love; we should remember as clearly as possible how it felt to
be deeply in love in the past. Remember a time in the past when you FELT the
way you desire to feel now, and immerse yourself in that feeling. The more
fully you can recreate that feeling state, the greater the fuel for your future
success. Remember to ask for that feeling or experience or something better, so
you remain open to ever greater fulfillment.
Julia Jablonski is an ordained
Spiritualist minister, medium and clairvoyant. Please Visit Julia's website
here: http://www.muse-net.com/
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