Spiritual Parenting, summary of lecture at the Oneness Festival

By Lee

The human being is the most wonderful in Gods creation. If we can help to live in this world as a happy person and in enlightenment, there is no much more you can give. Everybody is designed to have many experiences in life. The perceptions will create reality. A loving atmosphere, a wonderful enviroment, happy parents and the child will have positive perceptions and give it to the world. Observation shows that most people are conditioned to work hard in life to be succesful, nevertheless they will leave most of their projects uncomplete or postpone them.



Some participants now see clearly their past and review it. Cultivating the human child is an art. We have to learn and master it. Most people who have gained fullfilled childhood will help others and bring them in line with their lifes. To raise children today requires knowledge, love, peace, harmony and lots of compassion for the child. Kalki said everybody has his own purpose to fullfil, has to learn all his life to understand his destiny. So parents help to accomplish this mission of him.

There are three key factors you have to take care of: 1) YOU
2) YOUR CHILD
3) GOD.

The child upringing starts during conception, the mind the parents have before they decide to have a child. First key factor is physical, spiritual, emotional and mental condition of the couple. Parents are really prepared who are capable to love the child unconditionally. Physically it is required a healthy and strong body. Emotionally you should already be happy, knowing and understand yourself. Mentally calm, you have no conflicts in your daily affairs.

Spiritually your antearmin, the flame of god, is awakened and you are filled with love and kindness, practising meditation your chakras are in balance you will bring down a child with a higher conciousness then your inner child. You will bring down a child with a deep concern about animals, other humans and the world.

An other child will be depressive and not be able to contribute to the society, it will always struggle with his restlessness.

You can create the child you seek. Its possible that you receive the child you want to live with. Designing the child begins with the right conception. Thoughts and perceptions will influence the child before it will be born.

Ghandi felt guilty about some actions, he was turmoiled, had negative emotions, confused and in a struggle during the creation of his first son. He became a vagabund, a loser. Then Ghandi got released, free of this puzzling and inner conflicts, he gave birth again and received a wonderful second son.

You can sacredly design and decide which child you want. There are 6000 women, devotees of Sri Kalki, who have a vision. They see a golden ball, joyfully imagine their positive emotions and visualize the coulors, texture, smile and even the skin.

Right from the third month you can start talking to the child. The baby evolves, learns constantly from you during the time in the womb. Feelings and emotions, books the mother will read will directly move into the child. The supreme conciousness can manifest in a form, a child, a human being and speak to you. The child will see and feel in the womb and the memory will be intact after giving birth.

Ashram means A-shrama, no struggle.
The dasaji knows a child, when you see him you have to laugh. He jumps when he walks. He asked Bhagavan Kalki why he cannot walk normally. Bhagavan showed him when his mum was pregnant, she spent about 10 hours every day on the horse race course. She was so emotionally about every jump of the horses that she felt it inside. His mom is full of joy and intelligent, but it made her son walk like that. Since he made a rebirth in a course with bahgavan he is fine again.

Talk after the third month with your child about the world in which he or she has to come soon. When the father is talking to the mother it is also talking to the child. Thats why parenting is a sacred art and the child is not subject to undergo heavy emotions.

Certain rituals should be performed after the sixth month. Female and male should educate the child in which world they are living, about the birds, other creatures, etc. and how the journey out of the womb will be. It is mostly pleasent, maybe sometimes it will hurt but we are always with you.

Childs are very perceptive to their enviroment. There is a ritual where you can wish that your child will be a great saint, scientist, doctor, etc.. It is not unfair to do this, the child will choose. You cannot do it without his permission, this idea is born out of ignorance.

Around a pregnant woman there are thousands of souls who would like to enter. If you do not communicate, a soul for a small reason, which has made an agreement to prove something like to be good, earn a lot of money or just being beautiful, a mediaoca(normal) soul will enter into the mother. They are not sure what they are seeking for, they have uncomplete emotions. Every human being has this to be loved for what she/he is.

When you are emotionally and mentally calm, you invite a child who wants to be creative in music, science or is compassioned for enlightenment. It will not run away from the parents because he or she cannot stand the emotions. Thousands of Indians knew this during the enlightenment-times. Now is the time to help people to understand; a child needs great care before, during, while his/her birth and until the seventh year of age.

There are different mantras, pictures that must be chanted, designed around the mother. The vastu of the place where the child is going to be delivered is important. Father and mother have to talk hearttouching to the child as soon as the child is born. The father should receive the child and look in a certain way into the child eyes. After birth the first 5-6 hours are very important. The father will chant into his ears. The child will immediatly recognize the parents.

Till the seventh year the child should be treated like a king or a queen, all powerful, you should not give a no to a king, he/she is in command, they feel naturally like a king or a queen. If you do not agree, they will fight back. So, better agree.

Till thirteen you treat them like a prince or princess, you teach them and test them, give them knowledge, diciplin and responsibility. A prince should love to express what he is doing.

Give him all the freedom to be himself, to ease. From the age of fourteen you will be friends, you should be like a friend. However you cultivate children, they are rute. half of their heart is closed.

A small child liked everything, even the cleaning dicipline came by itself. One day the mother placed a glass of milk on the floor. The child was playing and spilled the milk on the floor, the glass broke. The mother shouted on the child, got angry. The child had to leave the room and the mother cleaned the kitchen.

Next time the grandmother put a metal cup of milk on the floor, again the child spilled the milk. The grandma saw a tension on the face of the kid, so she laughed and said: So its on the floor anyway, lets play with the milk. Later the child came itself to clean the floor with a towel. Most of the time illness of the child comes from the parents fear, the parents perception and concepts of life. You poure your own reality on the child.

The child will feel when you are not in tune with another person. Do not say he is a bad person etc., just explain what is happenig. The other might be depressed, whatever is a disturbance to you. A clear no to a child is absolute ok. It might scream for a few minutes, but then if you are still there full of love its forgotten. If you are loving and warm to a child and you give a no, the child might still cry but embrace you. It will get liberation by your living example.

If the man and the women are already enlightened, there are no problems at all, there are no extra conflicting thoughts, every action is not disturbing the child. Even when the woman got sound-crashing words from the husband, she will still walk in peace with the child trough the garden. The child feels this peace, nothing will stay in between. Arising and immediately passing away. You can reform a child, to transform is difficult.

If we understand the course of parenting, the child will manage the outside world. And if you develop yourself, the connection between the child and you is so strong, she/he will solve all the outside problems. Anyhow, the universe will be the teacher. At different times his past memories will be activated. To understand the ocean, the stars, why others are in pain, but the main relation to handle is the one with the parents. Then he/she will be so clear to change the patterns of others, change their perceptions and start to love themselfs.

Do not wait till the system, the schools, the universities change, the perception to work will change. Start to enjoy your work, to experience your children, to teach now. Parenting is not a technique, we will fail. It is an art. Parenting and enlightenment together is incredible. Bhagavan Kalkis enlightenment and the enlightened other ones are with you.

Living In Joy.